“What we fail to see is that in this way, we are harming ourselves more. Merely seeing them regularly and forcing ourselves to act as if nothing is wrong, all because we don’t know how to confront them with our anger; can give us a serious pain in the neck. We refuse to forgive the sinners because we believe we would be betraying ourselves and negating the impact of their wrong doings. Sometimes, we even deny to ourselves that we had been hurt, and console ourselves by saying, ‘What’s done is done, and there’s no point in reliving the past.’ This perspective reflects the idea that attempting to forgive the people who hurt us will force us to go through the unpleasant experiences and will only leave us vulnerable to being hurt.

Forgiveness is a virtue. It is a reward of an honest healing process. It is being kind to ourselves by letting go of any resentment and grudge that pull us to depression and loneliness. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves. By doing so, we rid ourselves of the excess emotional baggage that had been holding us back and weighing us down. Indeed, forgiveness is a priceless virtue that can only be realized through an honest reconciliation with one’s past and a genuine openness to embrace a life anew.”